Collegeapps

I need your help.

I try to avoid talking college here, since I have another blog to do that.  But with all the crazy college talk that’s filled the last month, I’m hoping you’ll share this with the high school students and parents in your life.  It’s time to keep their focus on what matters – and what matters most is the student, not the college they’re going to.

(And if they need more help, there’s this…)

Most students balk at filling out college applications because they view it as the first step towards leaving home. That’s easy to see; this is the place where you listen to your music, text message long after your parents have gone to bed, do a little homework, and think about your life. The world outside has changed and challenged you, sometimes in ways you didn’t like or didn’t completely master — but at the end of the day, you came home to sort out what it all meant, and looked forward to what came next. Giving this place up won’t be easy.

The good news is the colleges that are right for you will feel just like home. It may be in the dorm rooms, it may be at the library (hey, it happens), it may be the whole campus — but somewhere at those colleges, there is a spot waiting for you to reflect on the challenges of life, wonder about the possible, and text your BFFs til dawn. Once you think about college as your next home, completing the applications will be as easy as taking the written exam for your driver’s license, because both are just the paperwork that leads to a greater sense of freedom. In the end, going to college isn’t about leaving home — it’s about taking home with you.

The second thing I would do is replace students’ earbuds with soundproof headphones. Some students hit the brakes because of outside opinions about their college choices. The application to a college a student loves often heads to the shredder when a well-meaning neighbor asks “Where is that college?”, or Uncle Bob reports the college is nowhere to be found in the recently published rankings. If it turns out no other student at the local high school is applying to this college, this can become a trifecta for trauma.

So make the mature choice and be selfish. You know who you are and what you want in a college — if college selection were a term paper, you’d have about 25 sources to quote and 3000 file cards to synthesize by now. Knowing what you know about college and yourself, it’s important to keep the well-meaning insights of others in perspective — some may know you, some may know colleges, but very few (except your parents) will know both as well as you do.

Everyone on your first grade soccer team got a trophy for participating, and choosing colleges works the same way — with self-knowledge and college knowledge, everyone gets a best college, even if what’s best for you is different from what’s best for everyone else.

At this time of year, it’s easy for seniors to think it’s gonna take a miracle to get into college. You’ve worked too hard to believe in things that you don’t understand, instead, remember what home means to you, stay focused on what you’ve learned about college and yourself, and your college applications will go flying out the door so quickly, you’ll realize the miracle is you.

So pick up the pen, and pass the cheese doodles. You can do this.

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College Knowledge

You were four and hated spinach.
Mom said eat it.
You said no.

You were thirteen and loved Diddy (or Taylor, or…)
Dad said turn it down.
You said WHAT?.

You’re seventeen, and looking for a college.
A rankings publication
Dying to make money
That doesn’t even know you
Is saying apply here.

Thirteen plus four is seventeen.
Tell them WHAT?
Then tell them no.

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